Learn more about attachment and relationships
Somatic Exploration to Transform Anxious Attachment
If you have anxious attachment style and you’re wanting tools to help you shift toward secure, using a somatic or body-based approach is very helpful.
For a lot of people with anxious attachment, it’s common to seek reassurance, love, and validation from a partner, which can sometimes make relationships feel uncertain or stressful. These attachment patterns often start early in life and don’t just affect how we feel emotionally—they also show up in our bodies.
When I was certified as a dynamic attachment practitioner, I learned just how important body awareness is for shifting toward secure attachment, and it was a big part of my own journey toward finding secure love.
Avoidant Attachment Style? How to Communicate What’s Important to You
How to communicate your needs in relationship — how expressing feelings and needs in a positive compassionate way helps relationships grow and flourish.
How avoidant attachment style developed to make recognizing and sharing feelings and needs feel uncomfortable
Ways to get more comfortable talking about your feelings and being open in relationships
Are They the One? When to Commit — for the Anxious Attachment Style
For someone with an anxious attachment style, knowing when to commit can be tricky. Let’s talk about how you can tell if the timing might be right.
Self-Esteem & Attachment Style
Have you ever wondered why you struggle with self esteem, especially in relationships? It might have something to do with your attachment style.
Absorbing Others’ Emotions - Balance for Anxious Attachment Style
People with anxious attachment often feel deeply connected to others' emotions and may have a hard time distinguishing between their own feelings and those they absorb from others. This heightened sensitivity can make setting and maintaining emotional boundaries even more challenging, yet it’s so valuable when you want your relationship to be more secure!
How Does AI Affect Our Attachment Style?
How does AI affect our attachment style? I noticed it hasn’t been mirroring us as much lately…
Spotlight on Secure: Interviews with the Securely Attached, Episode 1
Spotlight on Secure: Conversations with securely attached people about building secure relationships
How to Change Your Anxious Attachment Style
Having an Anxious attachment style can be frustrating, but the good news is that it’s possible to learn ways to become more secure in relationships.
Why Being You is so Important - Being Authentic Early on in Relationship
For a secure functioning relationship, do this when dating -- the importance of being authentic
You Are More than One Attachment Style
Some people are surprised to learn they’re more than one attachment style, and if they’ve already done some work on their attachment and feel stuck, it can be worth exploring these additional styles.
Increase Connection with an Avoidant Partner
A lot of people talk about being frustrated with a dynamic they end up in where they feel like they’re doing all the work in the relationship, or their partner isn’t really interested, or they ask their partner what’s wrong and the person shuts down or pulls away. Here are some strategies to help you get closer to the avoidant partner in your life.
How Disorganized Attachment Impacts Dating and Relationships
Disorganized, or Fearful attachment style has to do with the way we relate to other people. When someone has a disorganized attachment style, it means they might lean toward either anxious or avoidant attachment style in relationships, or maybe oscillate back and forth between the two.
How Avoidant Attachment Impacts Dating and Relationships
If you’ve found yourself regularly losing interest in your partners, running away from love or you can’t ever seem to find a partner who measures up to that ideal person in your head, exploring attachment style can be a useful way to understand how to create relationships where you have a really great connection and feel understood.
How Anxious Attachment Impacts Dating and Relationships
An Anxious attachment style doesn’t mean you’re the only anxious one in the relationship, but it does come with certain challenges. Learn more about this attachment style in dating and relationships.
Anxious Attachment Triggers and Coping Behaviors
Anxious attachment usually stems from inconsistent or unpredictable connection in childhood. The result is a desire to keep someone close, and a fear of being abandoned.
Here are some triggers that people with anxious attachment often feel in the beginning stages and later on in relationships:
Avoidant Attachment Triggers and Withdrawal Strategies
There’s a myth that people with avoidant attachment don’t want to be in relationships. The truth is, most folks with avoidant adaptation do want to be in a relationship but push their partner away because of underlying fears and triggers which we will explore now.
How to Find a Partner with Secure Attachment
If you’ve learned about attachment style and you’re in the process of looking for a match, chances are you’ve wondered how to avoid dating people with incompatible attachment styles and find someone with secure attachment.
Retrain Your Brain and Attachment System for a Secure Relationship
6 ways to increase your secure attachment
Why Do the Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Styles Attract Each Other?
You may have heard of the anxious avoidant trap, where two people with different attachment styles in a relationship get entangled in a dance of disconnection where one withdraws while the other pursues.
3 Steps to Manage Anxious Attachment When Your Date or Partner is Pulling Away
What to do if your date or partner is ignoring you, pulling away, and you’re scared you’ll lose them.