Although I’m blessed to have a secure functioning relationship now, I’ve been on the relationship rollercoaster myself, and understand how difficult it can be. After all, you have some amazing qualities. You’re smart, empathetic, honest, capable, have a great sense of humor, and have done a lot of personal growth. Dating and relationships shouldn’t be this hard.

I discovered through my own journey of personal growth and healing my attachment wounding that…

We can be amazingly self aware, but still get stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns.

For me, working through patterns was a bit of a puzzle, and it helped to have supportive people along the way. 

For example — I learned about the anxious avoidant trap, and how to make changes in myself and select partners so I could avoid this pitfall. I learned and developed ways to calm my attachment system when it was ruffled, soothe my inner child when she was scared, and tap into feelings of safety and love.

I won’t say that self-love came easily. It took decades to learn how to love myself, but that eventual learning came from the somatic awareness of what it feels like to take love in. I began to attract way more love into my life, and the kind I wanted — playful, romantic, empathic, the kind that checks all the boxes. Along the way, I learned to finally love myself!

Now I help people create more fulfilling connections in their lives, and specialize in helping individuals with insecure attachment style to build a more secure, loving relationship with others and with themselves.

A Journey toward Love