Have you ever felt like you’re doing everything you can to connect with your partner, but it’s just not landing? Maybe you’re looking for reassurance, and they respond with, “You’re overthinking it,” or you’re hoping for closeness, but they seem to pull away.

Why Does Dating Feel Like a Rollercoaster?

Have you ever felt like dating is way more complicated than it needs to be? One moment, things are going great—you're laughing, having fun, and imagining all the possibilities. Then suddenly, you're staring at your phone, re-reading their last text (or freaking out because they haven’t replied), and wondering, Did I mess this up?

• If you have anxious attachment style and you’re wanting tools to help you shift toward secure, using a somatic or body-based approach is very helpful.

• For a lot of people with anxious attachment, it’s common to seek reassurance, love, and validation from a partner, which can sometimes make relationships feel uncertain or stressful. These attachment patterns often start early in life and don’t just affect how we feel emotionally—they also show up in our bodies.

• When I was certified as a dynamic attachment practitioner, I learned just how important body awareness is for shifting toward secure attachment, and it was a big part of my own journey toward finding secure love.