Boundaries

Boundary Problems for the Anxious Attachment Style in Relationships

When you have an anxious attachment style, setting and maintaining healthy boundaries can be truly challenging. If dating, you might be focused on progressing the relationship quickly, or if you’re in partnership, you might be focused on relational stability at the expense of your well-being and self-connection.

If you have the following tendencies…

• You tend to focus so much attention on a partner that you lose track of your own dreams and needs…

• Or you tend towards accommodation and people pleasing, and it’s hard to say “no” because you fear losing someone or being rejected….

• Maybe you even prioritize keeping the relationship over expressing your boundaries, and you tiptoe around topics that may rock the boat because you don’t want to upset anyone…

• Or alternatively, you feel frustrated that you aren’t getting your needs met, and if you could just explain it differently the other person would understand and care…

• And you have underlying resentment that you’re not getting your needs met, but you find that you can’t express those needs for fear of losing the relationship, so the frustration leaks out in other ways…

• Or you keep being attracted to similar types of relationships, and you’re not sure how to break that pattern…

It’s time to determine what your boundaries are and how to assert them in your relationships.

Not having boundaries costs us time and money — and our own energy.

After helping so many clients over the years with boundaries and creating a course on the topic, I’ve seen the effect that implementing healthy boundaries can have.